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Questions

Interesting get to know you questions (source: teambuilding.com)

I love questions and lists. Some are trivial, some are difficult to answer, but they all reveal bits of who we are. The following questions are all quite philosophical, I tried to reply in very short, open, and true manner. Enjoy – you can leave your thoughts in the comments, I’d love to read your answers to these questions.

  • If you could speak to one deceased person for thirty seconds, who would it be and what would you say? I would speak to my grandma, ask her if she was okay and tell her that inspite of her hate towards me, I made it; and also: I am grateful for the role she played in my life. Last but not least, I would say thank you and tell her that I love her
  • If you could travel to the past and change one event, would you? Which one? Why? This is an easy question for me because of my personal philosophy. I try living without regrets which means that I don’t want to change anything; no past event needs to be changed. Every moment in my life mattered and meant something, it all shaped the person I am today. If I changed one thing, everything else would change too, and I would not want that
  • What is the best advice you have ever received? Be kind, everyone fights a battle. Love yourself, because you are the only one out there who knows how to do it.
  • What is the worst advice you have ever received? It doesn’t matter what they think
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful? I am grateful for my kids, my husband, my best friend, my job and every little success and failure I got to experience
  • If you could change anything about the way your parents raised you, what would it be? Everything, starting from them never showing love, affection to offering support – everything. The only thing I would not change is the way they introduced me to music and that it is a magical place
  • Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? Actually, no. When I published my novel I fulfilled my own dreams
  • If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? I am not sure. I would continue working and spending time with my kids and husband. Maybe I would travel more to meet and hug the people I met online. Also, I would probably pressure myself into writing and publishing one last poetry collection
  • What area of your life would you most like to improve? My health. It improved a lot in 2022; I also lost some weight, but yeah, that’s something I should take more care of
  • If you could switch lives with any one person for one day, who would you choose? I would love to be a man for a day and also have intimate relations with a woman – that’s very specific, I know but yeah, I would like to be a man of pleasure for a day
  • What is your definition of success? There is not one definite definition of success. But for me personally, it means feeling content and being happy with the current situation
  • How has your perspective on the world changed over time? It didn’t change all that much. I think, I got softer and more accepting of little mishaps.
  • Do you believe that people can change? Yes!! And I believe in second and third chances
  • Do you believe you will accomplish your dreams? I already did. I am not even 40 years old and there is no dream left for me. Apart from one that is still very new and fresh and not ready to be shared yet.
  • What was the scariest moment in your life so far? The birth of my first kid and last Christmas when I had a call from the hospital telling me that my mother would not survive the next 24 hours. I was asked to make decisions about her final hours and that was very scary. My mom, the fighter that she is, pulled through that time, but the doctor said it was nothing short of a miracle
  • What is your biggest regret to date? No regrets, but I should have asked for help earlier
  • Whose death hit you hardest? Without a doubt my grandma’s death
  • Do you believe in free will? I do, but I also think that there is a path that is destined to be walked. We have the free will and choice to do things on this path, but the path itself is paved and there is no choice other than to follow it
  • Do you believe in destiny? Yes. Every person we meet teaches us a lesson or becomes a memory. Everything happens for a reason
  • If you could relive one moment in your life, which would it be? A day in November 2017. If I was then who I am now, that day would have turned out differently. At the same time, if it had, nothing would be the same right now
  • What is your most cherished belief? Everything happens for a reason
  • Where do you think we go when we die? Our Souls live on, I am certain of that. As long as we are remembered, we are not dead.
  • What do you think is the meaning of life? It’s a very philosophical question, but for me, the meaning of life is to be there for others, leave a little imprint on the soul of everyone you meet and share bits and pieces of your personal wisdom with everyone you meet. Also 42! (For those who know)

I hope you enjoyed these few questions and answers… Tomorrow (December 21st) is the shortest day of the year – enjoy every minute of it. xx

Little edit: holy all, there were quite a few too many mistakes and errors I did not see last night. It’s embarrassing, really. Everything should be sorted out now. I apologise. Have a nice day xx

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Christmas tag

Thank you to Paul for nominating me for this festive tag, and I would also like to hear your answers to my questions.

a) Rules:

1. Thank the blogger that tagged you and link their blog to your post.

2. List the rules in the post.

3. Answer all the questions asked by the blogger.

4. Nominate some other bloggers and provide them with 12 new questions!

b) Paul’s questions

1. What do you eat on Christmas?

On the 24th, we have Fondue Bourguignonne. (Fondue with meat cooked in red wine). On 25th, we are invited with my husband’s family, and I don’t know what we’ll have.

2. Do you like wrapping presents?

Yes, I do. And I am quite good at it.

3. Do the other reindeer feel slighted that they haven’t been asked to lead Santa’s sleigh yet?

I don’t know. Santa doesn’t exist here in Luxembourg. We celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ.

4. What’s your favourite tree ornament?

A purple glass ornament.

5. What makes a good mall Santa?

I couldn’t say. There are St. Nicola’s here around the 6th of December. A good one is not drunk and loves talking to the kids, keeping the magic alive.

6. Favourite Christmas movie?

I am very girlie here… I like the Family Stone, and I also like Home for the Holidays. And Miracle on 34th Street.

7. Have you ever snooped around the house for your presents?

*Shaking my head No, whispering yes*

8. Is an inflatable snowman on the front lawn really necessary?

Nope

9. Do you like when your gifts come in bags?

No. It takes the fun of unwrapping them

10. If it doesn’t snow on Christmas, is it still Christmas?

Yes! There is no white Christmas around here… With few exceptions.

11. Have you ever returned a present?

No. Every present is chosen with care, even if I don’t like it.

12. Alvin and the Chipmunks have a made a lot of money off of their Christmas album. If you were to make a Christmas Album, what would your hit single be called?

Last Christmas I dreamed of dancing in a winter wonderland.

c) Nominations:

I nominate River Dixon, fauxcroft, Jeff, and everyone of you who has visited more than once. You are welcome to leave your answers in the comments too.

Here are my 12 Christmas questions:

1. What is your earliest memory about Christmas?

2. How do you spend December 25th?

3. For me, the Christmas season starts when I first hear Last Christmas on the radio; when does the festive season begin for you?

4. Which traditions don’t you like?

5. Do you even celebrate this day?

6. Do you like giving presents?

7. How many kilos will you gain this year?

8. I wrote a post about not liking the festive season for various reasons, do you like or dread December?

9. Do you decorate your home and house?

10. Do you sing Christmas carols around the tree?

11. What is the worst that could happen during a Christmas party at work?

12. What would you get me if money wasn’t an issue?

Enjoy… Looking forward to your answers.

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Question and answer

So… The question arose about how I write. Routines, outlining, creating a character, inspiration… All that.

And here comes my answer:

I write the way every sane person would tell you not to write. I don’t have routines. I don’t set goals. I don’t plan my characters or plots ahead. I am doing it the worst way you can: I sit down and write, making up the story as I go and shaping my characters while I am writing. I rarely review or edit before I post. It is all considered a first draft.

I was told that if I had more ambition and more direction I could write amazing things. But therein lies the issue. I don’t have enough ambition. I write for fun, not for financial profit. I love my day job.

All that said, I admit, I am not selfless. I am somewhat egocentric, bordering on narcissistic at times. I thrive on comments. They make me happy. They make me feel validated. It is a fake emotion, but it is the truth.

I believe that I am a good writer. Not the best, but there are much worse than me.

As for the inspiration, that’s not different from other writers. The idea for “Find a Little Love in me” was sudden. I felt like writing fiction again, but since I hadn’t done it in so long, I didn’t really know how to do it. I needed a challenge, and the 100 chapters/100 words seemed intriguing enough. Shelly is a lot like me. I created a character drawing ideas, quirks and flaws from my own self. Maybe that is the only reason why I ended up completing the challenge. I do love to write about myself.

The idea for “Upside Down” came from an image I had in my head. It was of Milly running down that alley with the goons following her, weapons drawn. And the idea took form to write a story with a different approach. I wanted to have Milly as the strong character who ultimately will save Josh from his own one-way life.

With each passing chapters, new ideas on how to proceed pop up in my head. It is nice. And thank heavens I am not working right now. It will give me a couple more days to write.

“Find a Little Love in me” was finished when I uploaded it. “Upside Down” is written on the go. It is rough around the edges and raw.

My poetry is written in a similar yet different manner. A song, a word, a line I hear. A memory or an emotion I feel. That’s what makes me write poetry. Maybe that is why my poems are always that short? I like it short and concise.

I hope that was a satisfying answer. How do all of you write? Could you do it the way I do?

Cathy

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Would you…

… want a fantasy to come true?

… want a dream to come true?

What will you dream/fantasize about when all is said and done?

What happens if everything goes wrong?

What happened if everything turns out better than anticipated?

What if. . . ?

And what if we forget about those questions and just enjoy the moment? Will that be possible at all?

No doubts, no regrets, no grudges.

And that has to be enough.

Because, there is a difference between loving the idea (fantasy) of someone, and loving who they actually are – flaws and oddities included.

But at the same time, these flaws and oddities make someone who they are. No one is perfect.

Perfection doesn’t exist.