Three days ago, I mentioned the word “sex” in a conversation on Twitter. That evening, I had six different men in my DMs, sending either nudes of their private parts or sending indecent proposals, including detailed fantasies.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I like the attention and admire the courage it takes (or the carefree attitude, the mega ego…) to send nudes to a random stranger; but I am really not interested in anything like that.
After a fun chat with T we decided to try a little something:
I put up the word #sex on my Twitter in an attempt to count how many people would react and how.
And wouldn’t you know? Only two men reacted, but not in the way you would think. It was just banter and wordplay. Nothing even close to what I experienced mere days ago.
Nothing else came from it, and after 36 hours I deleted the tweet. I admit I was part disappointed and part relieved. It goes to show that:
- my Twitter reach is very limited and my feed is well hidden by the algorithm
- the people who follow me know me well enough to understand this was not an invitation of any kind
Also… Just because I think it is worth mentioning:
- 79% of my Twitter followers are male
- 68% of my Instagram followers are male
- 99% of my Bandcamp followers are male
- 85% of my SoundCloud followers are male
- 81% of the blog followers are male
What am I trying to get at? Simple. My interests in music and writing and movies and even photography seem to fit in with men’s interests more than with women’s. There must be a reason for that, but I don’t know it. I find it quite interesting anyway. And also, these numbers might show you that I am circling in places where people try to flirt in a rather blunt manner on occasion. Out of experience: musicians are the worst, the pushiest and the most entitled when you reject them.
But again, I know to whom my heart belongs, I know where my home is, and I am not interested in anything else.
And yet, I also wonder why so few females are in my audiences. Is it because (as I have been told a couple of times) I seem distant, cold, uninterested? Do I myself react differently to women than to men?
I don’t know. And in the end, it does not matter either. As always, I am doing my thing. It is not aimed at any gender or audience, I am just trying to be my most authentic self.