When I sense that people are agitated and anxious, I remind them to breathe and to unclench their jaws. Some look at me as if I am stupid for even suggesting it.
We all know how to breathe; we are doing it all the time, but when we are in distress, our breathing gets shallow, and our body suggests we need more air to fill our lungs. We feel like suffocating during panic attacks or anxiety attacks. At worst, it ends with hyperventilation and the fear of dying. Remembering to breathe in through the nose and exhale through the mouth, helps to calm down. It gives us something to focus on when everything else is overwhelming.
When we are stressed, angry, nervous… we tend to put our teeth together, grinding our molars – clenching our jaw. Maybe it is to prevent us from saying something stupid, or from screaming. But, our entire body gets rigid like that. Our neck gets tense and our back too. Once again, breathing right becomes problematic because we prevent it physically. And it’s not good for our teeth. Loosening the jaw and the entire face muscles looses tension in our body too. And again, it helps to relax because blood flows easier through the bodies and oxygen levels get better again.
Observe those things in yourself, maybe it helps…
Test
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I thought you were gone.
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I’m still waiting for some people. I don’t want to leave until everyone gets a chance.
Until then…. 😝
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That’s a respectful approach.
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I do care about y’all…
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Unless you want me to go ahead and go. 👍
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No. No I don’t want you to leave. I want you to stay. But I don’t have much say in it.
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It’s nothing against you.
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I know.
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I feel like I’m making things worse. I’ll let you go.
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You are not. It’s not your fault that I have days when I am not well. And I did not have many of those days in recent months.
Don’t go. Don’t leave if you have some time to chat.
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I’m around 🙂
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Okay. I don’t want to make you feel bad.
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I don’t want you to feel bad!
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Thank you.
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Are you okay?
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I’m good. I really feel like I’m making you hurt.
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It is not you. I promise. It will be okay
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Yes ma’am.
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Believe me. 💜
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Well the Purple Heart says it all 😂
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I love the purple heart.
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You’re pretty purpley
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Even if it is surprising, purple is my favourite colour.
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I knew it couldn’t be black lol!
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Black is not a colour. 🤷♀️
I need to try and catch some sleep now. My alarm will wake me up in 5 hours for work.
Goodnight and thank you, John. I appreciate you more than you know.
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Maybe I don’t know. But I think it’s probably mutual.
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Maybe. Probably.
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🤦♂️ have a good day Catherine.
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I am at work. At a meeting.
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Still at your meeting?
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Lol, no. That was yesterday. I did not work today.
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And you never said anything else. I didn’t want to go with silence and awkwardness…
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I was very busy yesterday. But I am here now.
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If you want me to leave you alone I will.
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Nope. Don’t go. Please.
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John? I am not angry or put off or wanting you to leave. I was just tired yesterday,that is all and I forgot to get back to you. I simply forgot. After 12 hours at work, coming home and doing all the chores… I was just overwhelmed from the day and went to bed early
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You normally say something.
I just don’t want you to feel like you failed at this friendship or anything negative. You didn’t.
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It did not even cross my mind.
But it goes both ways, there is nothing failed…
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I feel a lot speechless.
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Why?
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I don’t know. I feel like I should have left you alone.
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That’s a personal feeling. It is not true from my side.
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You’re one of the easiest friends I’ve made on here. Thank you.
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You are very welcome. It all came effortlessly.
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And to think I didn’t think you’d even like my comments.
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Lol… Sorry. Not really. 🙂
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I thought you were probably a young American girl. Probably a single mom. Nothing in common with me at all.
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And there i was. Not young. Not American. Not single.
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I know… I was so wrong about everything 🤦♂️
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And yet, you took a chance.
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You would have either ignored me or talked. I took the spaghetti and tossed it. It stuck. I can’t get it off 😂🤣
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Sorry. You are not trying hard enough.
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I never wanted to mess it up
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But nothing is messed up. If anything, there is no need to tiptoe around me.
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I usually haven’t 😂
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You never have.
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Well………. You are young!
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Some days.
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Every day!
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I am happy with my age. But I would not call it young anymore.
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Wait till your 40’s 😂
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Not even two years now.
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You’re going to feel that 2 years lol!
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I hope so.
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I hope you feel better than I did lol
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If I made you feel uninvited or unwanted, i am sorry. It was never like that. Not once.
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I felt like that.
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I am very very sorry. It was never my intention.
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It’s not easy leaving. I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t have to.
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What’s holding you back? Apart from me keeping you here in conversations.
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I care about a few people.
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You know, in the end, none of this matters, if it interferes with your life off-line.
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Yes. But I’m different.
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Well… I am the same different.
Do you feel guilty to leave this behind?
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You’re going to find a better friend. All around better. I’ll be a memory, or forgotten 😂
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No. No chance.
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Maybe he’ll be a John too.
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It doesn’t matter. There is only one you.
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You’re going to find better friends.
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That’s the point… I don’t let anyone into my inner circles easily.
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Was I easy?
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It was easy to let you in. For a reason I don’t understand nor overanalyse.
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You were too
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But your first impression was not wrong. I am distant and not really looking for friendships. It just happened.
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I feel special
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That’s nice. And right
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It wasn’t offensive. It just plays on my old addictions.
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I am sorry.
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I understand it’s different for you. Sex overall must be different where you’re from. On top of all this is that I’m very different. I battle this stuff. For me cleavage is basically boobs. And you know my pantyhose thing..
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I don’t know if it is different. But I am understanding these addictions. I am reading up on it.
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I just wanted to stare. It’s awkward…
What are you reading? And learning?
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About sex addiction. There is a Green Book from the SAA. It is very interesting and enlightening.
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It’s awkward. You know my deal with pantyhose.
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Yes. I know. But it is not a problem for me.
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I try to work around it.
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It will never go away. But it will be manageable.
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Like the addiction lol
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Exactly.
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I hate it 🤦♂️
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It is part of your life though. It is a part that makes you you.
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The only person to give you down the road about your pictures 😂
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Absolutely, but it is okay though
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Someone had to 🙄
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Yep. I needed to be put in my place
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Good girl 😂
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I deleted that cleavage pic, by the way. 🙂
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It was too good 😂
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I wanted to make you feel comfortable.
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I really appreciate that!!! 🙂
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Good. 🙂
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I would do the same for you.
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It is what friends do.
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😝
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Hopefully Pat realizes he has a really awesome wife.
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I am not the right one to judge that.
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You should
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You think?
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Yes, I do
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Thank you.
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You’re 1 of a kind. Authentic. Original. Many other awesome things.
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It’s why it’s hard to go. You’ll forget me lol.
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I will never forget you. I don’t forget people who matter.
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I’m happy I matter.
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You do.
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Hug
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Thank you. 🙂
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You’re welcome. My bestest Luxembourgish buddy 🙂
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How many of us Luxembuddies are there? 🤣
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You. There was a young girl from the Netherlands..
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Lol, that’s far away, we don’t even share a border. 😜
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She was sweet but troubled.. stole a picture off my blog….
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Ah yes, you mentioned that.
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Weird foreigners
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Yes, we are all weird.
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I know 😏
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Hehe… Good.
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Even your hehe is weird 😂
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Of course it is, it is mine. 😊
It is time for me to go to bed now. I have to work in the morning.
Thank you for this John. Every chat matters always. xx
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Good night Luxembuddy!
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Good night John.
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Hug
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A woman’s heart is a fragile but awesome thing. And I don’t think you give yours to just anyone. I think you gave a little piece to me. And I’m honored. If I’m wrong, forgive me. Thank you for everything Catherine.
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I am not sure how to put it. Yes, you got a piece of my heart, but not in a romantic way, if that makes sense. 💜
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I know it’s not in a romantic way! I’m sorry if I confused you. I was meaning that we have a pretty special friendship. Nothing weird. Just good friends as we can be.
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Yes. Absolutely true.
I am not in tonight… But I’ll chat as soon as I am home again. Promised. 🙂
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I love our friendship though.
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Me too. It really means a lot!
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Thank you John. 🙂 I had dinner with my son at a restaurant tonight and now I am watching a film. What are you doing?
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What did y’all have?
Nothing… being lazy.
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Ollie had a Burger and I had a thing with seafood.
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How did I know someone had burger?
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He is a teenager. Of course if there are burgers on the menu, he has it.
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I wonder what a Luxemburger tastes like
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Medium rare Flesch, lots of onions ans salad and pickles and cucumbers. Sauce depending on the restaurant. 🙂
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👍
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Flesch = flesh = meat.
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Ahh! 🤜
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I noticed too late that you don’t say flesh for meat. Lol, silly me.
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Sounds kind of gross lol
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Cannibales, all of us. 🤣🤣🤌
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Weird foreigners
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You are the foreigner… I am an almost true Luxembourger.
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We’ve established my weirdness…
What is an almost true Luxembourger?
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I am part Italian.
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Italian rocks 🤜
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Yes we do. 🤌
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The food is good but not my favorite
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Whhaaat?
What’s your favourite?
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Told you I’m different lol
German, Romanian, Vietnamese
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We are all different. 🙂
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Pizza is good. I like lasagna..
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You need to eat Italian vegetables or fish/seafood. With lots of garlic and olive oil. Salt and pepper. And nothing else. Delicious.
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Sounds good!
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Much better than pasta or pizza. Real authentic. 🙂
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I like authentic stuff. I’m glad I’m not one of those who doesn’t like going outside the box… I want the cultural experience.
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I think I know what you mean. 🙂
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I’d rather be cultured 😜
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You are. More than most Americans that I met online.
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It’s like plus size women.. you don’t know how awesome they are until you have one 😂
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Lol… Once you had a taste you will not go back.
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We’re all particular cups of coffee.. or tea..
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I am a small strong double espresso. What are you?
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Mocha. Espresso.. earthy, organic. Creamy, and eye opening 😂🤣
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Sounds perfect. 🙂
I just hurt my arm pouring water! When will it stop?! I am so frustrated with my arm right now.
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Hasn’t healed all the way?
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No. Whenever it gets better, i do one wrong movement like falling up the stairs or pouring water and I am in pain again. It’s frustrating that the muscle doesn’t heal.
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Praying for ya 🙂
I agree… you’re getting older
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Yup. The most frustrating part is that when surgery was scheduled, there was only talk of doing work on the shoulder. And they did, but they discovered that something was wrong with my biceps and they fixed it. The shoulder is okay, pain-free, but the biceps… It’s a pain to get it back on track
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You women folk are resilient.
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We have to. Most of the world is made for men.
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Yet, crazily enough, Yall have an enormous power over men.
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I am off to bed. Goodnight. 🙂
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Good morning/afternoon
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Good morning/afternoon to you too. I am about to head off to work.
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Have a good day!
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Thank you. I will have to finish a couple of reports, but it is a short shift. 🙂
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Good evening. How was your day?
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Sorry… I didn’t mean to break the mood.
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No! I was driving. And also had no signal..
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And just a little bread or baguette to go with it.
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👍
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