Tonight, I had the news that a woman I like a lot passed away. She was older (76) and sick (cancer that had spread and two strokes). I am sad, because she was such a unique, quirky, eccentric and warm person. Whenever we met, we had a chat. She was one of the people I liked to see and chat, you know? Not one of those you hope won’t see you; not one of those you pretend not to see. The last time I saw her was almost a year ago. It was at a function for our municipality. Between us, we drank a bottle of wine and talked about everything and nothing. Her last words to me carried me for a long while: “You are awesome, Cathy. Stay open. Stay you. I really like the woman you are.”
How many people say things like that to your face? My cynic mind tells me to blame it on the wine, but I know that she was an honest person. She would not have spent any time with me if she had not liked me, and she certainly would not have said those words to me. At the time, I did not know that they were her last words addressed to me, but now I cherish them even more. RIP
Another awesome woman who passed away 12 years ago to the day is my mother-in-law. She welcomed me into her family, and she taught me a lot about parenthood and finding your own way. She encouraged me, and was there. In the 8 years that I knew her, she was more of a mother to me than my own mom. Sad but true. She is still greatly missed. Her last words to me were said the day before she passed away. She put her hand on my pregnant belly (she passed away on my due date for Giulia – Giulia was born two days later), looked at me with a smile and said: “you’ve got this. I am proud of you. I love you.”
And maybe I was in denial, but here too, I was not aware that these words were the last time she would ever say anything to me. And I told her too that I loved her that night – I am very glad I did. She was very ill (cancer that had spread…) and heavily medicated. She was drifting in and out of consciousness, and maybe I was naive or maybe I was preoccupied with my pregnancy, but I did not realise that she was in her final days… Yeah… I miss her a lot. She would have fallen instantly in love with Giulia and she would be so proud of Olivier and Amalia… She would have been the most amazing grandma…
November took the amazing people. But, in November, some of my favourite people were born too… Next November, everything will be very different again.