First of, don’t expect too much from this post… It is not filled with scientific evidence. There are no interviews, these are simply my own thoughts, questions, and experiences.
I am not a girl’s girl. I never was. I was 35 when I heard the word “girl-code” for the first time – and only because apparently, I broke it.
I get along well with men. Of all ages. Apparently, it is because we share more of the same interests and because I don’t like any drama bullshit. That said, I am a drama queen in my own right. I like being flirty, but I most often don’t fall in love or lust with a male person. One look at my social media (any channel, FB, Twitter, IG, here…) shows that my audience is mostly male. Why? I don’t know. Maybe I have daddy issues and they all want to save me. Ha – I was told so when someone (a woman) counted how many men followed me on twitter. (!!!) And you ask why I don’t invest myself in female friendships?!
The thing is, as soon as you openly chat with a man (as a woman) you are accused of having a crush. That’s also why some men think it is okay to send dick-pics. Now – many women are very appalled by pictures of genitalia on their DMs. I am not. I am not inviting anyone – but we all know that I like some kind of attention. This is not an invitation – keep your pants up!
Anyway… I believe that men and women can be friends without any romantic feelings. Friends come in different gender and with different backgrounds and talents. I like diversity. And I like learning from people. I like having my mind stimulated. And I hate when everything needs to follow certain rules.
Most of my friends and confidants are male. The people I trust most are male. The people I miss most are male. I am not a girl’s girl and don’t believe in girl-code…