It goes both ways

I am a firm believer of “everything happens for a reason” and ” people walk parts of your journey with you for a reason”. Until now, I only applied it to me. This person entered my life for a reason, and this person left for a reason. The reasons (phew… Lots of reason here), the reasons aren’t always understandable at first. Most often, we only understand the lesson we learned in hindsight. We are learning from the memories and experiences we made.

I recently understood that this works both ways.

I struggled with the fact that a person is not an active part of my life anymore. It was (and partly it still is) hurting my most sensitive feelings. And I miss him. But the truth is, I don’t miss him. I miss the idea of him. I miss the knowledge that he was just a swipe on the screen away. And while I tried to come to terms with it, using my mantra (everything happens for a reason), I failed to understand that I am not a part of his life anymore either. And as much as I have learned and gained (and lost) from this experience, he learned and gained (and lost) an equal amount of things. Sure, his lessons are certainly different, but they are there.

That thought, honestly, it blew my mind. Of course, I began pulling myself down and insulting myself as egoistic and self-obsessed when I had some time to mull it over.

The fact remains that every coin has two sides. Everything we do has consequences. And sometimes, when we interact with someone, things happen for a reason. For us and them too.

The lesson I am taking from this is being even more considerate and kind. We all have our internal struggles. Most are hidden to the public eye.

xx

Cathy (2018)

5 thoughts on “It goes both ways

    1. Thank you.i hope it is. At the same time I am well aware that I often just think out loud on the blog and those thoughts could be seen as unimportant or juvenile…

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  1. I have never thought of it like that. As a matter of fact I often think that we try too hard to rationalize things that happen in terms of why they happened to us, when they didn’t happen to us, they just happened. Great post.

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